Our Adoption Mission for Hopeful Adopting Families (HAP’s)
Since the beginning of our organization’s start, we have been working hard for both adopting families and women with unplanned pregnancy (family preservation). It has become even more clear that our mission is incredibly important. Not just from the political and law changes of our country, but because there is a trend we have been seeing in the adoption sector that we are deeply saddened by and want to see changed for the better.
Our mission for adopting families is to reduce the cost of adoption by providing a platform for safe and verified identified matching. We have seen many for-profit adoption agencies take advantage of the hopes and dreams of adopting families. Many families have paid thousands of dollars for years in hope of getting a match and the agency or adoption professional is unable to do what they have promised. We want to change this and see a new season for Hopeful Adoptive Parents (HAP’s).
We do not charge for our programs and services. Our nonprofit organization is solely ran on grants, sponsors, and generous donations. We have trusted adoption agencies we recommend to help expecting mother’s (EM’s) and adopting families with all the legal parts of the adoption process. We have chosen them because these agencies do not charge thousands of dollars upfront to HAP’s and provide no results. They are licensed, legitimate, and working toward the same goals as us for the best possible outcome for adopting families.
We are working at making adoption more affordable for certified families by partnering with these types of agencies because we want to see your family thrive and you invest that money you would have given to a for-profit agency, into your family.
We hope to start a new trend in the adopting sector, actually putting families best interest first. To see women supported, HAP’s matching without the high cost, and to incentivize opening up our homes to children not only through private infant adoptions, but to children in foster care that need support, care, and love.
What is Adoption?
Adoption is a beautiful and giving act. It is the gospel played out in our very homes. There is a lot to it, so we want to help you navigate through it as best as we can.
We are partnered with Cross many Heart Adoption & Family Services.
Cross My Heart is fully licensed for all adoption services in the State of Texas and for all ICPC cases. As a licensed agency, and not just licensed social workers, their home studies and services must be accepted in all U.S. and U.S. territory courts.
Cross My Heart has been a licensed agency since 2007 and was granted a permanent non-expiring license in 2011.
Working with Cross My Heart, allows you to complete adoption services that are specific to your needs and we strive to provide guidance and help that makes the entire process less stressful.
- Domestic Adoption Home Study
- Step-Parent Adoption Home Study
- Embryo Adoption Home Study
- Surrogate Adoption Home Study & Screenings
- Child Custody Home Study & Evaluations
- Post Placement Reports
- International Adoption Home Study
(based on country of origin & Hague Treaty laws)
- Birth mother services
Matching birth moms with adoptive families, pass through expenses (a licensed agency is the only legal way to provide monetary support to a birth mother), counseling, and other services to meet a birth mom’s specific needs.
- Adoptive parent services
home studies, matching services, advertising, and guidance based on specific needs.
Helpful Adoption Information
Although no more than 2% of Americans have actually adopted, more than 1/3 have considered it.
One out of every 25 U.S. families with children have an adopted child. According to the U.S. Census, about half of these have both biological and adopted children.1
Adoption is all around us, even if we don’t see it. Every day, there are children being adopted into loving families all across the country. Adopting a baby requires guidance from an experienced adoption professional.
While you have been researching if adoption is right for your family, you’ve most likely heard the term “open adoption.” Openness in adoption refers to the communication birth families, adoptive families, and adoptees have after an adoption placement. There are varying levels of openness in post-placement communication.
Open adoption requires people to think about adoption in a new way. Rather than “subtracting” children from their birth family and “adding” them to their adoptive family, open adoption means that the family has been transformed and extended to form what we call an “adoptive kinship network.” Family members find themselves entering a more complicated set of relationships, but one that is usually rewarding for everyone (Grotevant, 2015).
Here are some questions to ask yourself as you are considering if open adoption is right for you:
- How often am I willing to share updates with the child’s birth family?
- In what ways am I willing to share updates? (Telephone, Text, Pictures)
- Am I willing to keep my promises of communication/updates with the birth family?
- Do I want my child to have a relationship with their birth family?
- Am I willing to talk to my child about and help them make meaning of contact with their birth family?
- How might sharing updates or having visits affect me and my child?
- Do I want my child to have ready access to their biological family? Medical information? Biological siblings?
- Do I want my child to be able to ask their birth parents questions about why they chose adoption?
- What do I do if the relationship gets difficult? Am I willing to put the effort into the relationship even if it does get difficult?
- How will I react if my child wants more or less contact as they get older?
- Do I feel like I need my adoption professional to mediate this new relationship?
Fact #1 – Closed adoption involves no contact with the adopting family before the baby is born. In a closed adoption, the birth mother typically allows an adoption agency to choose the adoptive parents for her. She will not have any information about the family who is adopting her baby. In a closed adoption, there is no contact with the adoptive family before the baby is born.
Fact #2 – There is no future contact with the adoptive family in a closed adoption. Generally, it is not possible to have contact with the family or baby in the future in a closed adoption. Birth mothers are not required to provide their contact information to the adoptive family. However, it is possible to provide this information in case a birth mother wants future contact. Even if the birth mother provides contact information, the adoptive family is not required to contact the birth mother for any reason. This includes if they divorce or one of them dies or if either remarries and gets custody of the child.
Fact #3 – You cannot share ongoing medical information. If you do not share contact information with the adoptive family, they cannot request medical information from you moving forward. You also will not get medical information from them regarding your child. This information could be important when diagnosing and preventing illness.
Fact #4 – Privacy is the main benefit of a closed adoption. If you feel the need for privacy, that is the main benefit of a closed adoption. The adoptive family cannot contact you without your prior consent. Similarly, your child will not contact you in the future. Also, any children you have now, or in the future, will not have contact with the sibling who was adopted. However, adoptees may find their biological families today using new DNA technologies and social media.
Fact #5 – Studies show that closed adoption isn’t always best for the child.
There are some drawbacks to a closed adoption that affect the birth mother and the adoptee. Here are a few:
- Birth parents might change their mind in the future and want contact
- Uncertainty about how the baby is doing may cause depression and anxiety
- Knowing the child is happy and thriving can help with processing grief and loss
- Not knowing their birth parents can lead to a feeling of loneliness and lower self-esteem for a child
- Many adoptees feel a piece is missing when they don’t know any information about their biological family
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Single Parent Adoption
So you’re a single man or woman and contemplating adoption? You may even be asking the question; “Can I adopt if I’m single?” Yes, single women and men may adopt through Adoption Finder!
It is important to note that our ability to assist any single applicant is determined in part by the laws governing adoption in your state of residence because some states do not allow adoption by gay applicants. Please do check with your state before applying.
According to a 2013 National Survey of Adoptive Parents, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, 27 percent of adoptive parents are single men and women! Approximately 22.7 percent are female, 5.5 percent male. Since the 1970s, across the country, the number of single-parent placements slowly and steadily continues to increase, both in domestic and inter-country adoption. International options are on a slight decrease but are still a viable option if you are flexible and patient.
- Most single adoptive parents are female, are most likely to adopt older children than infants, and are less likely to have been a foster parent to the adopted child.
- Single parent applicants are self-selective. Most applicants have high levels of emotional maturity and a high capacity for frustration, and are independent but linked to a supportive network of relatives.
- As a group, the single parent adopters of U.S. children tended to adopt “special needs” children who were older, minority, and/or handicapped children.
SINGLE PARENT PROFILE
2. Most single parent applicants have emotional stability and a support network of family and friends that will help them raise an adopted child.
3. Single parent adoptions are also one of the groups that adopt the most special needs children who need families.
4. Unmarried women are more likely to pursue international adoption over domestic adoption.
5. Single women often pursue motherhood for the same reasons married women do.
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